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Monday, January 20, 2014

across the miles





More dull days this past weekend and today and no sunlight to take pictures.   I hope we get a break in the weather soon but would rather not have the cold that is coming this week and the expected snowstorm on Wednesday.  


I think I might be down in the dumps right now.
I'm really missing my girl.
I'm wishing I could be at our daughter's across the country and help her for a while.  I wish I could drop by and spend the day with her and our grandsons and help her out while she gets some much needed rest.  It's difficult for us both to be so far apart.  We will be going to visit them next month but it's been 6 months since we were there.  We talk nearly every day these days and Skype most days too.  Sometimes when we Skype we just visit as though we were in the same room.  The boys play or eat lunch while we chat.  She might do laundry or change little E's diaper.  We drink tea together sometimes.  But, it's not the same as being there ~ holding her, playing with the boys and hugging them, laughing, helping prepare a meal or do laundry.  I am truly thankful for today's technology where we can text, Facebook or Skype any time we want to.  But, it's not the same as being there is it.  



I don't know how people did the long distance thing in the past.  I mean….Skype has only been around a few years but today we can talk in real time and see each other ~ sometimes at our worst.  The "good old days" were simpler but imagine not being able to see or hear from a loved one for weeks or months while you awaited a letter in the mail or an expensive phone call from across the miles!  

Do you Skype with a loved one across the miles?
Or do you call on the phone or write letters?
Maybe you do all three.  
  

Me and my girl.

Thanks for visiting and all your sweet comments.

And thanks for listening.

Blessings,

Pamela  








47 comments:

  1. What a lovely photo of you and your daughter, Pamela! I know how you feel as I lived many years distant from first my son and his family, and then my daughter and son-in-law. It was a blessing that we were able to move west to be close our children and grandchildren, and that I can now help with childcare with my granddaughter. I know not everyone is able to do that, and sometimes I am amazed I was able to pull up roots after living my entire life in one place! When I was apart from my chuldren I did use SKYPE to communicate with them on weekends. The time difference was annoying at times but it was almost as good as being there with them, and especially the grandchildren as they grow so fast! When my husband's family immigrated from Italy when he was young they missed family they left behind very much and were only able to call a few times a year as it was so expensive. It was very hard on my mother-in-law to not see her mother or sisters for decades. So in that context we are very lucky to have the use of SKYPE!


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  2. Love your picture of your daughter and you. You look lovely. My granddaughter wanted to FaceTime Santa Claus. Have a great week. Blessings, Martha

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  3. That's a nice photo of you and your daughter Pam. I can't imagine living that far away from one of our girls and know you'll have a good visit when you head west next month.
    Judith

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  4. Lovely picture of you and your daughter. Yes, Skype is a wonderful thing. I use it regularly to keep in touch with my sister. We drink tea together too but, like you say, it's not the same as being together. Not even close.

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  5. cute shot of the 2 of you. so wild that we were just talking about this ... i know it must be so tough for the 2 of you. makes you enjoy every moment when you do get together (even more i bet). kind of like that saying "enjoy to the very last drop." maybe it is time for a move or change? thinking about ya. ( :

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  6. Distance and separation from parents was part of my life when my children were very young, before Skype and Face Time. Phone calls, letters and visits once or twice a year was how our life was lived. The technology of today has certainly bridged that absence distance gap. BUT, nothing like a real face to face, reach out to touch and hold. I am excited that soon you will be enjoying those really wonderful mother to daughter moments in the very same room!

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  7. Beautiful photo of you and your daughter, Pam! Thank goodness for the latest technology so that you and your daughter can visit daily. My daughters live fairly close but I don't see them very often. I guess just knowing they are close is a comfort.
    Someone on another blog just posted about the doldrums and I think that is what I have. It's already been a long cold winter and we still have February and March to go. I have not been out taking any pictures. It's just been to darn cold. You have the trip to your daughter's to look forward too next month! Enjoy every moment of it.
    Have a good day.

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  8. Sweet post and testimony of a good relationship with your daughter. We are so thankful for technology like we have today. It is so much easier for our daughter to communicate with her husband while he is in Afghanistan. It would be tough waiting for mail to go back and forth.

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  9. I'm very close to my daughters also, Pamela, and I know I would feel the same as you if we were separated by miles. I think today's technology helps, but being there for hugs is the best. I hope all of you get together soon. I love the picture of you and your daughter, so pretty!

    XO,
    Jane

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  10. We are in contact with our family on Vancouver Island almost daily. Today we enjoyed photos in a few text messages while we were enjoying tea and coffee at the mall. Like you I am so glad for modern technology and not having to wait for photos to arrive via Canada Post.

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  11. Pamela
    I love the photo of you and your girl! It's a blessing you are so close in heart.
    I do know exactly what you mean..my children and g'children are all long distances away too.
    I told Tim I need to see them soon!
    It does sounds like Skyping makes it a more personal experience than just phoning, for sure.
    I can only phone since none of my children use Skype.



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  12. Pamela,

    You KNOW, I can relate big time on this one!! It has been the major cause of my sporadic sadness this year, as my readers sympathized with me during the holidays and I so appreciate their kindness and concern. Yes, thank goodness for Skype, but like all the previous comments say, including your own observation, it's just not the same as physically being there, especially for hugs and hanging out, just being together, with our precious girls!! I hope you get a chance to visit with each other soon and spend some quality time together.

    The photo of the two of you is so very lovely; you both look so happy and content!

    xo
    Poppy

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  13. What a beautiful photo of you and your gal! I don't know how all you folks who must be away from each other do it. A lot of pluck, I think. I'd be sunk if my kids were far away as I'd not be able to afford to travel. A month will surely sail by, if the last month is any indication. In former times, I think that people said goodbye never knowing if they'd see each other again. Those must have been the saddest of partings.

    You need a project! Are you making anything for those grands? A quilt or a crocheted blankie or a tea cozy for Jen?

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  14. No both mine are still at home. At least your willing to help your daughter, my Mother in Law never seemed to want to help other that brag. She now lives 300 miles away in Scotland and regrets moving as there is no one to care for them and I really don't care for her. I hope your son in law never gets that way with you. Sorry for the outburst at least you can see them with skype which I might add I have never used. My son converses with a young lady in Texas on his setup.

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  15. Hello, Pamela, I am so sorry. I know it is not like having her there with you and being able to touch, feel and laugh with each other. And your heart is missing something right now. I have often thought of you and you not being near your daughter and grandsons. I have thought how it must make you so very sad. But chin up, girl. Soon you will be with them and enjoying those little ones and your wonderful daughter. I am going to add you to my prayers today...you can count on it.

    I truly love the picture of you and your darling daughter. It really is a beauty. You both are very pretty and the colors of your shirts go so well together! Lovely picture! Makes me think my daughter and I should have our picture taken....soon!

    Hope to talk to you soon. Wish the sun would shine here. We are headed for very low temperatures this week. I am waiting impatiently for SPRING!

    Susannah

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  16. Pam, that is why I bugged the Pres to leave VA...to be closer to our family. Now, 1 1/2 hr drive is nothing compared to 10-13 hrs driving! ...:)JP

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  17. Oh Pam....I feel so bad for you...I am so lucky to have all my kids within a fairly short distance...
    I can tell you are really hurting...but...you do have the skype...I know....not much consolation♥️♥️♥️
    Before you know it....you will be hugging both your wee grandsons...and chatting...face to face... with your daughter....
    Hang in there...it won't be long now...
    Cheers!
    Linda :o)
    ps....sweet photo of you and your daughter....she looks like you♥️

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  18. I feel fortunate to have my kids close by. Well, our son who is underemployed still lives with us, but I'm not complaining. I can't imagine what it would be like to not see them for long periods of time. But I live about 700 miles from my mother and try as I might, I couldn't convince her to join the computer age, so we only talk about once a month because I hate talking on the phone. But we do see each other once a year at least. Hope you get to get together with your girl in the not too distant future.

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  19. Yes, we miss our out of town children as well and understand how you feel.

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  20. A very nice picture of you and your daughter.
    I can only imagine how hard it must be to be so far apart. This modern technology definitely makes it easier to stay in touch, but still not quite the same as being together.

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  21. I'm sorry you are missing your daughter so much. Even with technology, as you say, there is nothing like really being together, and those boys need a big hug. I often think about how it was when we lived in Africa, or just far away from my parents. We never used to phone because of the cost. So we wrote letters. And could expect one nearly every week in the mail. What I liked about them is they could be read over again --- Well a month will go by quickly I hope and soon you will be there! Meanwhile stay safe in your next storm.

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  22. So sorry that you are missing your daughter Pamela, it will be wonderful when you are together again. I remember when I was a small child we had to talk to a tape recorder to wen messages to a distant relative who lived far far away! At least you don't have to do that! xx

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  23. Beautiful photo, you both look so happy! I miss my daughters all the time...I do find it is the simple everyday things that I miss the most. We talk, text and share via social media. I can't even imagine what it will be like once they have children of their own...joy and sorrow hopefully some sort of a balance.

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  24. I can't imagine being miles away from my girl:( I have never skyped but my daughter does with her cousin who lives 3 hours away. Thsnk goodness for skype indeed! Hope your wait time flies!

    xo
    abby

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  25. Tears pricked my eyes as I read of your longing to not only see, but touch your daughter and grandchildren. Our long years in Ecuador were full of such moments. Letters seemed to take forever. We had no phones, just periodic radio calls. When I think of how much I enjoy living in the same town as my own granddaughters, I am filled with gratitude and some grief when I think of my parents and the sacrifice they made in letting us go far away without ever complaining or making us feel guilty.
    I know that we may not always live in the same town as our children, but every day that we do, I feel blessed. Hugs to you Pamela. I pray that the time will pass by quickly until you see your beloved family again.

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  26. I so understand! My granddaughter is in another state so it is lots of phone calls. And I'm doing a lot of traveling!!!
    Just hug them a little tighter than normal when you are able to see them.
    Hugs,
    Cindy

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  27. Love the photo of you and your girl. Our daughter lives in Alaska, and we Skype a lot, and email a lot. LOVE Skype, because we get to see her, her wonderful husband, and the "girls": Zaeya Lynn who is 2 1/2, and Zahna Mae, who is 5 months old.

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  28. This brought a lump to my throat, I can just imagine how you feel. Such a lovely picture of you both..
    Sending hugs your way... xo

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  29. Oh Pam, I feel so down in the dumps for you, I've been there and missed my little girls something out of this world. With 2 at home and one down in North Carolina I'm always missing one or the other. Then my brother in Ottawa and Dad, we skype with, when I'm home I skype with the child not with me. Still write often once a month with my ex-mother-in-law and text when in Canada. Not the same, as a hug and crying over old pictures of the kids

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  30. Pamela, forgot to mention how lovely the two of you looktogether, sweet as sugar.

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  31. What a lovely portrait of you two! I've been calling my mom for years. It's just so much easier than sending a written letter. Of course, I send her cards now and then too. While she has been in the rehab facility, my SIL has been stopping by with her iPad, so me and my mom have been able to do FaceTime. That's been quite a treat!

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  32. I suffer from seasonal effective disorder myself so I am out often in winter to lighten it. Although the storm and frigid cold kept me in today. That portait of you and your daughter is gorgeous. I hope you have it framed and on your bedside table.

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  33. Hi Pamela! What a beautiful picture of you and your daughter! I know, I know. It's so very hard to live so far from our girls. My only two little grandchildren live in New York and like you, I talk to my daughter every day at least once and sometimes more. We do Skype to see the children but that just makes me want to reach through the screen and kiss them! This long distance business is hard and I feel your pain!
    Blessings,
    Shelia ;)

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  34. Beautiful picture of you and your daughter Pamela. It must be difficult with a country separating you and I wish I could tell you spring will arrive soon to chase away the blues, but it is still weeks away :(. But I will send you warm hugs instead. Jen

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  35. What a lovely picture of you and your beautiful daughter! Don't be sad.... sending you a warm hug as well and so glad that you have skype to keep you connected! I just talked to my mom and dad who are in Kelowna. :) Take care my friend!

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  36. You daughter is such a pretty young woman!....and the photo of the both of you is lovely.
    My heart goes out to you, Pamela. As you know, our children lived in Ontario for some time and it was so very hard. Having them in Alberta now is much easier, though still expensive for the flight. We see them now a few more times a year, and I love it. It looks like our daughter and son-in-law may have to leave the island for work, and that will be very hard.
    I'm so glad to hear that you are going to be able to make it to Alberta soon! I can imagine the wonderful welcome you'll get!

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  37. Your photos are lovely, today. I feel so lucky to have my daughters near. One lives 45 minutes away while the other one is about 2 hours. We FaceTime (apple's face to face) all the time, every day. I often wonder what my parents would have thought of the technology. But there is nothing like a warm hug. I hope that you get to visit soon. She is lovely.

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  38. Hi Pamela,
    I'm sorry your missing your girl:-( You are lucky to have such a wonderful relationship, and the time will pass...
    I was always very close to my Grandmother, I always wished there was a way to call and see her.. but she was gone before such things existed, Skype is amazing and a real blessing for long distance relationships...!
    We have been very cloudy too, I have been struggling with light too...
    Wishing you a wonderful week... Stay Warm!
    Hugs,
    Bella

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  39. Beautiful photo of you two. You are blessed to have each other, and I'm glad you can stay in touch as much as possible. Both of our sons are living about 20 miles away and I sometimes don't hear from them for days on end, but they're guys, and that's the way it is. (Not that I like it, mind you!)

    I haven't figured out Skype yet, but I can see where it would be fantastic. I call my mother every day though we only live a quarter mile apart. She was indispensable with helping me raise the little ones years ago. I'll always cherish the time we had together.

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  40. What a joy for you to have such a close relationship with you daughter!

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  41. I don't Skype as my internet connection is way too slow! Glad you can keep in touch with your daughter this way.

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  42. Pamela, I am just reading your post from yesterday and I can sympathize with you as well... although my circumstances are somewhat different. We have two grown sons, who both have children. My younger one who is now 31 went off to college in Nashville, which is about 500 miles from us in NC. That was back in 2000. He never came back home. There, he met his lovely wife, married her and later gave us our two far-away grandkids who are 5 nd 7 now. It was VERY hard to watch my "baby" go off all those years ago but it made it easier because we had our other son and his boys right here in our same town. Over the years, we have gotten used to it and cell phones and Skype definitely was a wonderful thing. These days, facebook and phone calls several times a week keep us connected and we usually are able to visit back and forth every few months. The sweetest part is my "baby" calls his mama 2-3 mornings a week on his commute to work...I'm usually on my way too. It makes this mom feel really special...but like you said, it's not quite like being there.

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  43. Awww Pam - I know just how you feel with my son and dil in the UK. It's just hard to be apart. But I'm very thankful that we can talk on facetime. We do the same as you - sometimes he's eating a late supper and I'm having mine and we just chat. It's pretty sweet - but you're right - not the same as being able to give them a hug. I'm sending you a cyberhug on this stormy day

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  44. Lovely photo of you both . I know how you feel our kids are off living their lives to and they are only hours away but we chat through face book and on the phone and get together every Christmas so for me it isn't to bad . At least now a days we have the technology to keep in touch and see one another but I understand what you mean about being there ! Good to hear you didn't get that nasty snow storm . Thanks for sharing and have a good day !

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  45. I can relate to the winter blues, especially after the storm on Wednesday...my daughter went back to University on Monday, so I've been feeling the same way this week... but the sunshine yesterday sure helped.
    I love the "good old days" but so thankful for our modern technology and cheap phone calls. When I was younger I lived in the US for a year and could only call home occasionally because it was so cost prohibitive. I am so grateful and thankful that I can speak to my daughter every night. It helps knowing she is in safe and sound for the night :)
    But it is not the same as being able to give her a hug.
    What a lovely photo of you and your daughter. Such sweet smile.
    Blessings to you.

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  46. Hi Pamela,
    Our eldest just graduated from college. It makes me sad to think that one day she might have to move far away. I love the picture of you and your daughter. Just beautiful! Christa

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